Romance Scams – Is The Girl You’re Chatting To Online A Scammer?
Internet dating can be a great way to meet somebody special. Unfortunately there are also plenty of undesirable people you can meet on dating sites.
So what are the particular issues that you might have with using Chinese dating sites? There are a number of types of lady to be careful of on Chinese dating sites:
Filipinas and Thais
Generally speaking, Chinese ladies themselves tend to be more honest than other Asian ladies you’ll meet on dating sites. And by other ladies I’m mainly referring to Filipinas and Thais. Many Thai ladies work in the entertainment industry so they’re experts at extracting money from men. Increasing numbers use the internet to supplement their offline earnings from clubs and bars. Filipinas are also dangerous. Many Filipinas speak and write reasonable English. This allows them to sign up to dating sites in large numbers and scam men.
If you’re interested in dating Chinese women then it’s best to ignore the Filipinas and Thais. Actually, most men seeking Chinese brides tend to avoid them anyway. Thais and Filipinas are a particular hazard on Cherry Blossoms and DateInAsia. They’ll also pop up occasionally on Chinese Love Links, and I’ve seen them on Japan Cupid as well.
I must admit that I’ve never had a Chinese girl ask me for money on a dating site. If you have had this happen to you then it would be great if you could share your experiences of this – add comments below.
African scammers are very numerous on dating sites, and you’ll find them on Chinese dating sites as well. African romance scammers are very dangerous. I watched a TV documentary on Nigerian romance scammers, and I was impressed at how good these men are at convincing people to part with their cash. Scammers target both men and women, and I know Chinese Love Links female members who have been contacted by African and Middle Eastern scammers.
Thankfully it’s not too difficult to detect these scammers. First of all the scammers usually contact you. They frequently don’t have photos in their profile. Needless to say they’ll also decline your invitations to see them on webcam.
Some websites have IP address lookup tools that will tell you which country the member’s computer is from. However, bear in mind that it’s not difficult to work round this. There are also plenty of African men living in China itself, particularly in Guangzhou and Shenzhen.
Short of hiring a private detective to background check a lady, the main thing to bear in mind is to be careful when chatting to anyone on a Chinese dating site. In particular, don’t send them money, and never get involved with business transactions with a lady. If you’re looking for a Chinese wife, politely refuse any requests to get involved with an import/export deal she might be running, or anything else. Often these are just covers for advanced fee frauds, and if you send a lady money through Western Union, you’re very unlikely to see her or the money again.
Pro Cam Girls
One scam I’ve personally experienced (though not lost any money to) are girls acting as affiliates for other dating sites or webcam chat sites. Basically they’ll send you an email on Chinese Love Links or another site and tell you they don’t write much English. They’ll then tell you that you can chat to them on another site. Invariably this site will charge you every time you send a letter to a girl.
All I can say for this type of girl is to just delete their emails immediately, and report them to the site operator.
The same goes for girls who tell you to sign up to another site with the promise of a sexy webcam show. Invariably this will be an expensive pay per minute type of site, and they’re not the kinds of places you need to be distracted with when you’re looking for an Asian wife online.
Some ladies aren’t trying to scam you out of money through the dating site. But there are plenty of professional daters who will beg you to come visit them. Once you’re in China she’ll take you to expensive shops and restaurants. You’ll end up spending a lot of money. The good thing is that you’ll have a helluva good time on the trip!
But on the downside, this lady will have no intention of marrying you. If that’s what you want, then ultimately the trip will be a big waste of money.
One variant of the pro dater is the pro dater working in league with her marriage agency or translator. These scams are fairly common if you meet a lady on Chnlove or ChineseWomanDate, so lookout for them. Sometimes the translator is the scammer, sometimes it’s the lady, and often it’s both of them working together. What will happen is that you’ll be taken to expensive shops and restaurants, as well as being overcharged for the translator’s services.
The best way to avoid this type of scam is to find your own translator, and if you’re with a lady then set your own agenda. Don’t ever take a lady shopping (although window shopping is perfectly acceptable!)
Another top tip is to research the city you’re going to visit and earmark some popular tourist attractions where you can take ladies on dates. Zoos, pagodas, gardens and riverside walks are all good ideas for this.
So hopefully this gives you an idea of some of the typical undesirables to look out for on Chinese dating sites. Don’t be too paranoid though, there are some terrific girls on sites like Chinese Love Links and Cherry Blossoms – if you can spot them.
Have you met romance scammers on Chinese dating sites? Have you had big problems with scammers? Leave your comments below.